Nurse Who Intended to Die by Suicide Marries Train Driver Who Saved Her—Later Saves Him
Disclaimer: This story discusses suicide and self-harm. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide please call the 998 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 998, text TALK to 998, or go to SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for additional resources.
Five years ago, Charlotte Lay, a night-shift nurse, was on the brink of ending her life. Before her scheduled shift she was feeling the weight of years of mental health struggles, and made her way to the train tracks one night, believing she could no longer go on. But just as the train approached, the driver, Dave, spotted her and managed to stop in time. He stepped out, knelt beside her, and spent 30 minutes talking to her—a simple act of compassion that saved her life and would change both of their lives forever.
Two Lives Changed Forever
Dave’s quick thinking and compassionate action saved Charlotte's life and set in motion a series of events that would change both of their lives forever. While chatting with Dave for some time, Charlotte agreed to go to the police station where she was treated. Dave recalls that he had, “never had the opportunity” before to get out and help someone he saw on the tracks until he stopped for Charlotte.
Following the incident on the tracks, Charlotte attempted to find Dave and was given his number by a colleague. What began as a traumatic encounter gradually evolved into a friendship, and eventually blossomed into a romantic relationship. Their shared experience created a unique bond, and over time, they fell in love. The couple's journey from that fateful day to their wedding is a testament to the unpredictable nature of life and the healing power of human connection.
Dave speaks to the moment Charlotte saves his life. He had been complaining of back problems and brushed it off to the aging process, but Charlotte encouraged him to seek medical attention. After finally seeking medical care, he was diagnosed with testicular cancer and made a full recovery. He attributes his diagnosis to Charlotte’s attention, persistence, and love.
Suicide in Nursing
Charlotte’s story brings attention to a harsh reality in nursing: a profession that demands so much emotional resilience can come with an unspoken burden.
- Female nurse suicide rates are the highest of any profession.
- According to a study, nurses are 23% more likely to commit suicide than women in general.
- Nurses are four times more likely to commit suicide than people working outside of medicine.
It’s critical to recognize that nurses, too, need support systems, coping mechanisms, and, most of all, someone to listen and ask, "How are you?"
To all the nurses reading this, yes, the pressures you face are often unspoken, but you are not alone. If you or a colleague ever feels overwhelmed, reach out. There are resources to help, including the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988, Safe Call Now, and the Crisis Text Line by texting “HOME” to 741741. Charlotte’s story reminds us of the power of support and second chances; never underestimate the healing impact of a kind word or the bravery it takes to reach out. Remember, just as you show compassion for others, you deserve that same compassion too.
The Power of Second Chances
The story of Charlotte Lay and Dave serves as an inspiration to many, highlighting the unexpected ways in which lives can intersect and change for the better. It also sheds light on important issues within the nursing profession, including mental health awareness and the power of support systems. As their story continues to unfold, it stands as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of love and compassion.
